D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition
If a toy was rechargeable, versatile, durable, waterproof, easy to clean, or covered by a solid warranty, we considered those attributes to be bonuses. Many people said they also desired an aesthetically pleasing toy with multiple color options. As part of my research for this guide, I consulted sex educators and owners of sex-toy shops. I’ve also consulted all manner of sex-toy users, from first-timers to people who use vibrators daily, including cis and trans people across gender identities and sexualities. No toy offers the level of power and intensity as the widely beloved Magic Wand.
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive and inaccurate, contributing to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. We opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V. This step is optional, but lubricant can be helpful to reduce the friction that might cause discomfort. It’s important to note that the kind of lube you use depends on the material of your vibrator. For example, if the vibrator is made of silicone, a water-based lube will help preserve the material and avoid damaging it.
But despite its general reliability, a larger wand vibrator doesn’t necessarily scream discreet. This wand in particular tends to be louder, and definitely requires more real estate in your nightstand drawer. As with everything else when it comes to sex, what makes a good vibrator relies a lot on a single factor — your own preferences.
Whether you’re looking for something to use solo or with a partner, you can’t go wrong with the Magic Bullet. As its name suggests, the Dame Pom is tiny enough to fit in the palm of your hand, but that doesn’t mean it’s not mighty in its vibration powers. This vibe features five vibration patterns and five intensities that’ll satisfy all of your sexual needs. The Svakom Cici Waterproof Silicone Vibrator’s flexible neck bends up to 30 degrees to hit all of the right spots, but that’s not the only reason why we’re loving this G-spot massager. Its six vibration modes and long, ergonomic shape can be used for both internal and external stimulation — so you can get the best of both worlds.
Insertable up to 17cm, the Silencer features a rounded tip and a silky-smooth shaft that’s ribbed for extra pleasure. It’s battery operated and completely waterproof viberator, so go ahead and get your rub-a-dub-dub on in the tub. Designed to be felt but not heard, the Silencer is a whisper-quiet classic vibrator that comes from the “sexual happiness people” over at Lovehoney. If just three vibration options sounds too limiting, might we suggest the Minna Ola?
While it’s the size and shape of a skipping stone, the aptly named Pebble is anything but rock-hard—instead, it’s made of ultra-squishy silicone. Find sex pillows, sex toys based on your zodiac, and more on our sex toys page. You can also opt to add a remote control to this vibrator, which , if you so choose, has a 32-foot radius.
“Instead of lying or sitting there and having the device stimulate you, engage your body with the vibrator. Often, this leads to a deepened experience of pleasure as you are activating the pelvic floor and your internal clitoris.” You attach the clitoral vibrator to your panties with a magnetic clip, making it ideal for sensual stimulation on the go. The panty vibrator comes in sophisticated black with gold-colored details and lies directly on the clitoris thanks to its ergonomic shape. The powerful but whisper-quiet vibrations mean your Little Secret is also absolutely discreet. It has an impressive, soft surface made of body-friendly silicone that will provide you with a smooth experience with just a few drops of lubricant.